Friday, June 17, 2011

No Self-Confidence eh?

1) when you are talking with someone, HE/SHE is not looking right into your eyes. kita cakap dengan dia, dia tengok merata rata. and i will automatically think, okay muka aku buruk, sebab tu kau tak nak tengok muka aku masa aku tengah cakap dengan kau. HAHA.

2) it is super distracting when you're shaking your legs as if you are on top of Mount Everest and super shivering. faham? okay, sakit mata bila tengok orang dok gedik gedik kaki laju laju bwh meja or something. mcm i just wanna go there and hit their legs. hehehe. tu cara diorang untuk bagi kurang gementar. is it? tapi you bagi orang rasa terketar ketar nak pukul kaki you so that your legs kan stay still.

3) menyilang kedua dua tangan di dada. it shows that you're rude. maybe you're NOT rude actually but you know, certain acts that you did, it actually reflects, YOU. cuba kalau buat mcm tu depan orang tua, mau dapat penampar lepas tu. hehe. and plus, bila silang tangan, nampak mcm nak tutup diri sendiri. macam kalau boleh peluk diri sendiri tu memang nak buat dah. kenapalah?

4) nak tambah lagi ketidak sukaan orang tua? silalah letak tangan di pinggang apabila bercakap. lepas tu bersiap sedialah anda. sama jugak kes mcm the silang tangan di dada tu. nampak kurang elok, kurang sopan. nak lg bombastik ayat, kurang ajar.

these are the most actions yang kerap kali manusia buat. i did as well but it was long time ago. keadaan akan buat kita berubah. teguran dari yang tua jugak. no harm changing kan? it is for your own goods!

no offense. :)

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Body language kd. ada maksudnya tersendiri. Bukan nak buat orang terketar, bukan nak peluk diri sendiri, bukan nak kurang ajar dengan orang. Kadang, mesej yang disampaikan tru lisan orang tak berapa perasan. Body language kadang boleh memperasankan orang

Khodijah Shamsul said...

but usually akan bg kesan negatif. there are few other ways for you to convey messages and not these 4. body language is seriously something tapi body language pun kena jaga. so that org tak meluat dengan kita. :)

Anonymous said...

hmmmm. depends pada situasi la.
tapi manusia selalunya tak akan amik serius perkara yang dicakap melalui lisan dgn nada biasa. karang ditinggikan or diseriuskan nada, kata marah pula. so body language is the best way. don't take it as a negative

Khodijah Shamsul said...

memang la if lisan tu ada tone dia tersendiri. tp now mcm m refering to self-confidence. takkan u never came across stuffs like dat? as i said, no offense. kd bercakap melalui pengalaman dan pandangan @ persekitaran. and what u said tu true, depends pada situasi. situasi sekarang bukan body language as a medium to convey messages but situasi dia, acts yang orang kerap kali buat to cover something ketika tgh bercakap - yang akan bg orang menilai diri kita.

Khodijah Shamsul said...

er lg satu, when u said body language is the best way, okay betul. jd xkan nak guna body language yang akan membuat orang salah tafsir diri kita? mesti bijak guna body language jugak kan. hehe

Anonymous said...

hmmmmm... yeah. maybe u r right.

Khodijah Shamsul said...

relax aa faez. pndapat kd je. :)

anyway, thanks for ur opinions too. :)

Anonymous said...

tau kd. setiap org pendapat berlainan. so dah dpt n nmpk pndpt kd

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